Many people have coping mechanisms, and some, are self destructive. By self-destructive, I mean self inflicting, for example ( obessive drinking, drug abuse, overeating,starvation, self mutilation, and bulimia). There are alot of people in this world with these type of destructive coping mechanisms, that truly rely on these mechanisms to maintain the stress that goes on in their everyday life. Theses problems or “Coping Mechanisms” become addictive in order to deal with stress, and sooner or later hard to resolve. I have delt with some of these problems through out my life, and until recently realized how to go about resolving them.  I believe when you become dependant on a coping skill, you can’t imagine your life without it, the thought is psychically and mentally agonizing, and even though you might already know it may be a destructive skill, you continue to rely on it anyway, because it creates the illusion of helping to eliminate your problems, when truthfully, it only adds to it, when knowingly you have become dependant on something that may not be good for you. I think alot of people want help when they realize how destructive they have become, and sometimes seek help in professional counseling etc, but I believe they expect the problem to slowly fade or even disappear after seeking help or realizing the issue. Unfortunantly, thats not the case. I went to numerous therapists, hoping they would help me resolve my problem, when really, despite the fact that you “talk” about your problem, you arn’t doing anything about it. For example ( Jane might be an alchoholic therefore she goes to a therapist and talks to the therapist in hope of finding the answer to her problems, yet she still comes home at night and drinks her alchohol of choice to clear her mind of the issues she has, because she has yet to find the answer in therapy. ) The truth of the matter is, the only person that can help Jane is Jane. And when she is truly ready to over come her issues, she will put down the bottle, and confront her problems.  Waiting to find a solution won’t get you anywhere, but knowing the solution is inside of you, and that you have the power to move on and do better things with yourself, is all you need to start anew.